The great philosopher who ruled the Roman Empire, Marcus Aurelius said- Our life is what our thoughts make it. Porn changes the way you think and behave. Porn has a lot of side effects. It causes physical, psychological, and emotional damages.
In this article, I’m gonna list 5 ways porn changes the way you think and behave.
1) Porn Makes You Think of Women as a Sex Object
Porn objectifies women. In porn videos, women are often treated as mere sexual objects available to satisfy men’s needs and nothing else. Watching excessive porn can make you think of women as sex objects.
Whenever a porn addict sees a woman, the first thing that comes to his mind is having sex with her.
People in porn indulging in sexual activities are just actors acting in front of the camera, that is not reality. If you’re getting your sex education from porn, then you tend to think that that is real. This a big problem.
Most of the porn videos are made to cater to the male audience, so giving all the authority to men and treating women as sex objects will increase porn viewership. That’s why men are always dominant in porn and also aggressive.
The problem with indulging in porn regularly is that the porn viewer starts thinking that is the reality and start seeing women as a sex object.
Porn viewers stop seeing women as human beings and start seeing them as a thing of pleasure. This, sometimes, leads to sexual harassment and rape.
2) Porn Makes You Socially Isolated
Humans are social animals. We are made to leave in communities and crave social interactions, it’s part of who we are.
For porn addicts, that social interaction is replaced by screen and pixels.
Whenever a porn addict feels lonely and craves social interactions, he goes to the comfort of porn which gives him pleasure for a brief amount of time and leaves him feeling more lonely and isolated than before.
A person looking for a romantic relationship needs to do a lot of work. He needs to take care of his body, develop a fashion sense, improve communication skills, go out and socialize with members of the opposite gender in order to get into a relationship and receive love.
A porn viewer just skips all the work, indulges in porn, and tries to hide his loneliness and his craving for love with porn. He develops a mindset of instant gratification. This makes him even more socially isolated.
This thinking that you don’t need to go out and socialize and can just fill the loneliness void with porn makes a porn addict even more isolated and lonely.
3) Porn Makes You Lazy
Porn makes a person develop a mindset of instant gratification and this makes him lazy in doing the daily day-to-day activity.
In order to get good grades, one needs to attend classes and study regularly. In the same way in order to be physically fit, one needs to take a good diet and exercise regularly, and to get rich, one needs to develop financial intelligence.
In order to achieve anything, you first need to put in time and effort and then reap the reward later. This mindset is called delayed gratification.
It’s nearly impossible for a porn viewer to develop a mindset of delayed gratification.
When you watch porn and masturbate afterward, your brain thinks that you just had sex and passed on your seeds. And it rewards you by releasing dopamine, that’s why you feel pleasure after ejaculating. It’s your brain’s way to reward you for passing on your genes.
Your brain can’t differentiate between ejaculating during real sex and ejaculating after watching porn.
By skipping all the work that you need to do in order to get a real partner to have sex with, you develop a mindset of instant gratification and this carries on in other tasks.
4) Porn Makes You Run Behind Pleasurable Things
Porn desensitizes your dopamine receptors. As a result, after some time you don’t get the same amount of pleasure by watching porn of the same category, you’ll need to watch a more aggressive category of porn to get the same level of pleasure as you were once getting from the “normal category”.
This desensitization of dopamine receptors affects people’s ability to perform day-to-day tasks. Due to this desensitization of dopamine receptors, a person stops enjoying little things in life and stops finding pleasure in activities which he once used to enjoy.
As a result, the person starts chasing more pleasurable activities and after a while gets bored from that too because no activity can give you the same level of pleasure as porn and masturbation. This running behind pleasure is a trap.
Porn addicts have reported that they stopped enjoying their hobbies after they got addicted to porn. Their hobbies couldn’t provide them with the same amount of dopamine as porn, as a result, they no longer found their hobbies enjoyable.
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5) Porn Makes You Develop an Unhealthy Attitude Towards Sex
Porn viewers have reported that for them sex is a tool for pleasure. They are often unable to form an emotional connection with the person they are having sex with.
Regular porn viewer starts looking at women as a sex object and sex as a tool to get pleasure. Porn takes away a person’s ability to form an emotional connection with other human beings.
Spouses of porn addicts often suffer due to their partner’s inability to form an emotional connection.
Sex is a way to form a genuine human connection between individuals and get closer to each other emotionally and connect on a deeper level. But porn makes sex an act to just get pleasure and nothing else.
All a porn viewer could think during sex is to get as much pleasure as possible for himself and not care about their partner’s pleasure.
In Porn, couples have sex just for the camera, they are just actors acting in front of the camera. But often porn viewer mistakes it for reality and thinks this is how sex is supposed to be.
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Conclusion
Here are the 5 ways porn changes the way you think and behave:-
- Porn Makes You Think of Women as a Sex Object
- Porn Makes You Socially Isolated
- Porn Makes You Lazy
- Porn Makes You Run Behind Pleasurable Things
- Porn Makes You Develop an Unhealthy Attitude Towards Sex
If you’re a regular porn viewer or a porn addict, then you could relate to the above-mentioned things. If you do relate, then you need to change something in your life. Giving up porn is not easy, but possible.
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