I’ve been following the nofap lifestyle for the past 4 years and after many failures and setbacks, I’ve discovered the best nofap strategy that’ll help you quit PMO(Porn, masturbation, orgasm) for good.
The best nofap strategy is to stop treating nofap as a challenge and treat it as a lifestyle. Stop seeing nofap as a magic cure that’ll solve all your life’s problems, rather see it as something that will give you increased energy and motivation. You must replace PMO with some meaningful work and meaningful relationships to quit it for good.
Before Discussing the best nofap strategy in detail, let’s look at why people fail at nofap.
Why Do People Fail at NoFap?
A lot of people do nofap for 1-2 weeks and then relapse and get back to square one. They can’t seem to get past the 1-2 week mark, that’s because they haven’t replaced PMO with something better.
Just quitting porn and masturbation and not replacing it with something else will almost always make you relapse. By not indulging in PMO, you’re preserving your sexual energy and if you don’t transmute that sexual energy into something positive, that energy will get too much to handle and you’ll eventually relapse.
Urges are nothing but built-up sexual energy. You must transmute/utilize that sexual energy, otherwise, the urges will become unbearable and you’ll relapse.
Exercising, meditating, working on your hobbies, building meaningful relationships are some of the ways in which you can transmute that sexual energy, which we’ll discuss in detail later.
Don’t rely just on your willpower to stop watching porn and jerking off. That’s the worst nofap strategy. If you think you can just fight urges with your willpower alone, you are guaranteed to relapse eventually. Rather, you should build your life in such a way that you don’t feel the need to indulge in porn and masturbation.
People indulge in porn and masturbation because they feel something is missing in their life and they try to fill that void with porn and masturbation. What’s missing in their life is meaningful social interactions and relationships. People try to fill the void of loneliness with porn and masturbation.
Indulging in porn and masturbation is just a symptom and it shows that you lack healthy and fulfilling relationships in your life. Rather than trying to quit porn and masturbation with willpower, you should try to fill that void of loneliness and build meaningful relationships with people.
The Best NoFap Strategy
The best nofap strategy is to structure your life in such a way that you don’t need porn and masturbation to give you pleasure. You feel so fulfilled that you don’t even think about indulging in PMO(Porn, masturbation, orgasm)
Here are some of the things you must include in your daily routine to make your life more fulfilling:-
1. Exercise Regularly
In my 4 years of following the nofap lifestyle, I’ve realized that you can’t make nofap your lifestyle unless you include exercising in your daily routine.
Exercising is the best way to transmute your sexual energy and build a good physique. You’ll realize that you’re getting a lot fewer urges when you exercise regularly. Go to the gym and lift weights or go for a run.
Make a habit of exercising regularly, it’ll make your nofap journey easier.
You’ll also notice that your performance in the gym will improve and you will experience better muscle growth on nofap.
I asked these questions to people on my nofap Instagram page(@the_fapstronaut). Let’s look at what they say.
Better performance in the gym on nofap 
Better muscle growth on nofap
84% of people said that their performance in the gym improved after following nofap, and 80% of people said that they experienced better muscle growth on nofap. This should act as a motivation for you to hit the gym regularly.
2. Meditate Daily
Include Meditation in your daily routine. You’ll notice that you’re able to control urges a lot better. Not only that, but you’ll also feel calmer and relaxed, and will have better control over your thoughts.
Exercising and meditation make your nofap journey a lot easier. If you’re not exercising and meditating on nofap, you’re setting yourself up for failure.
Make a habit of meditating daily, even if it’s for 5 minutes. Within a week, you’ll notice that you’re getting a lot fewer urges than before.
Let’s look at what people on my nofap Instagram page say about exercising and meditation.
92% of people said that exercising and meditation helps in their nofap journey. You’ve got to include these 2 activities in your daily routine if you wish to succeed at nofap and make it your lifestyle.
3. Work on Your Hobbies
If you’ve practiced nofap in the past, you must have noticed that the urges hit you when you’re free and have nothing to do. That’s when you are most vulnerable to urges. The key to overcome this is to always keep yourself busy.
Work on your hobbies, build a new hobby, learn a new skill, whatever you do, always keep yourself busy, especially for the first few weeks of your nofap journey.
If you’ve nothing to do all day and you just scroll social media mindlessly, you are guaranteed to relapse.
If you don’t have a hobby or an interest yet, go to Skillshare or Udemy and learn something new. Indulge yourself in something, so that you’re not sitting idle.
4. Socialise More
The biggest reason behind people indulging in porn and masturbation is that they don’t have meaningful relationships, close friends, and a fulfilling social community.
You must use the increased energy to go out and mingle with people. On nofap, you’d be more willing to socialize, but you’re still going to have to go out and talk with people and build close relationships with them.
If you already have close friends, make a habit of going out with them at least once a week. If you don’t have close friends, then get interested in other people’s lives and build close friendships with them.
When you’ve close and fulfilling relationships with people, you’ll realize that you’re happy and you don’t even think about porn and masturbation. The rise in loneliness in people is the biggest reason behind the rise in the use of pornography.
In this day and age, people have become disconnected from other people and that’s been fuelling the rise in loneliness. Most porn and masturbation addicts have no close friends and are extremely lonely. If you wish to quit porn and masturbation for good, you’re going to have to fill the void of loneliness with meaningful and fulfilling relationships.
The Biggest NoFap Mistake
The biggest mistake people make on nofap is to not replace porn and masturbation with something else. Just quitting porn and masturbation and not replacing it with something fulfilling will always lead you to relapse.
Build your social circle, make close friends, and mingle with people to get the feeling of fulfillment, then you won’t have to use your willpower to stop watching porn and jerking off.
Putting it All Together
In order to quit porn and masturbation for good, you’ll need to structure your life in such a way that there is no need for porn and masturbation. You can structure your life by structuring your day. Whether you’ll be able to quit porn and masturbation for good or not depends a lot on how does a typical day in your life looks like.
You can plan your day in such a way that there is no need for you to indulge in porn and masturbation. When you include exercising, meditation, doing meaningful work, and socializing with people in your daily routine, you’ll notice that you’re not even thinking about porn and masturbation. You’re getting your fulfillment and joy outside of porn and masturbation, so there is no need to indulge in it.
