Beta males are weak and submissive. They look for approval from others to feel good about themselves. Nobody wants to a beta male.
In this article, we’re gonna discuss what is a beta male and how to stop being a beta male.
What is a Beta Male?
Beta males are weak and submissive. They don’t have any confidence and get bullied and pushed around by alpha males.
They don’t know what they want out of life and just drift along with life accepting whatever life throws at them. They don’t go after what they want because they think they are not capable enough.
They get intimidated by Alpha men and are often pushed around by people. They don’t have any “game” with women and often get taken advantage of.
How to Stop Being a Beta Male?
Here are the 8 things you can do to stop being a beta male:-
1. Learn to Say “No”
Beta males are often too nice and can’t say “no” to someone.
If someone asks you to do something you don’t wanna do, just say no.
When a colleague asks you to do his work and if you don’t feel like doing it, just say no. When a female friend asks you to accompany her somewhere and if you don’t feel like doing it, just refuse.
You don’t need to give a reason behind your refusal, you don’t owe anyone anything. Just say no and don’t explain yourself.
This doesn’t mean, however, that you shouldn’t help someone. But, you should only help someone when you feel like doing it. You are not obliged to say ‘yes’ every time someone asks you for a favor. Saying ‘yes’ every time is how you get taken advantage of.
2. Stop Putting Women on a Pedestal
Beta males often put women on a pedestal.
Stop idolizing women. They are just as human as you are. They are not perfect and have their flaws.
A lot of people feel obliged to say yes whenever their female friends ask for something. You don’t have to treat women differently and say ‘yes’ every time just because they are women.
Beta males are often too nice to women in the hope that she’ll start liking him. They don’t realize that being too nice is what puts them in the “friendzone”.
If you like a girl and she doesn’t like you back, cut her out from your life and stop obsessing with her. Obsessing over one girl is how you become a simp. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
If you feel like a girl is taking advantage of you, cut her off from your life immediately. If a girl wants to talk to you about the recent fight with her boyfriend, don’t do it. Only simps talk to a girl about her recent breakup or fight with her boyfriend.
3. Develop a Fashion Sense
Start dressing sharply. Wearing nice fitted clothes not only makes you look respectable but also gives you confidence.
You don’t need to be too obsessed with the latest fashion trends, but have a basic knowledge about fashion and grooming. You should know how a shirt, t-shirt, jeans should fit. Wear only nice fitted clothes, don’t wear baggy or tight clothes.
Start taking care of your skin and develop a grooming routine. Contrary to popular belief, a grooming routine is not only for females. Taking care of your skin is a form of self-love.
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4. Start Lifting/Exercising
Having a good physique is the best confidence booster.
Start going to the gym on a regular basis and put only high-quality foods inside your body. Start treating your body like a temple because it is one.
You don’t need to have six-pack abs or 20-inch biceps to become an alpha, but you need to have a strong and fit body.
Having a fit body gives you confidence, makes you feel good about yourself, and helps you make better decisions.
A person who doesn’t make time for exercise will eventually have to make time for illness. A fit body is not only good for your health but it also makes other people respect you more.
5. Work on Your Goals
Betas often don’t work towards achieving their goals because they don’t think they are capable enough to achieve their goals.
You need to set a goal for yourself and work towards achieving that goal every single day. There is nothing sexier than a man on a mission.
The goal could be anything from getting ripped to learning something new, to being financially free, to starting your own business, etc.
Whatever goal you set for yourself, work towards making it a reality every single day. Know what you want out of your life and go get it.
6. Stop Watching Porn and Jerking off
Watching two people having sex and pleasing yourself is a beta mentality. Alphas don’t watch two people having sex and please themselves. That’s what porn is, watching two people having sex and pleasing yourself.
You need to give up watching porn and masturbation. Watching porn sends your brain a subconscious signal that you’re not good enough to have sex with a real woman, that’s why you’re watching some men doing what you wanna do and pleasing yourself just by looking at them.
If you’re hungry, then you don’t satisfy your hunger just by looking at other people eating. You go and eat something. Similarly, if you’re horny, then why watch other people having sex and satisfy yourself? Go out and meet with women and have sex with real women.
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7. Have The Courage to Do Something Different
Don’t just do what others are doing and follow them blindly. Alphas are leaders whereas betas are followers.
If you think that college is not for you and you’re better off without going to college, then don’t go to college. If you think that doing a 9-5 job is not for you, then don’t do it, start your own business. If you think marriage is not for you, then don’t marry. Don’t just follow what most people are doing.
Most people don’t know what they want out of life and don’t have the courage to do something different. That’s why they follow what others are doing. Don’t be afraid to go your own way.
People may criticize you for doing something different but deep down they’ll wish they have the courage like you. Do what you think is best for you and be unapologetic about your decisions.
8. Stop Being Intimidated By Others
Betas are often intimidated by others. They think they are not good enough and everyone else is better than them.
Stop thinking that others are better than you and start thinking that no one is like you. Stop comparing yourself to others.
When someone tries to intimidate you, give them a befitting reply.
When you’re standing in a line and someone tries to cut the line, confront that person and tell them to go to the back of the line. When someone talks to you in a loud voice, confront them about it and ask them to apologize. Don’t let anyone disrespect you and get away with it.
How Long Will it Take to Stop Being a Beta?
It depends on you. How willing are you to acknowledge that you’ve some beta behaviors and how willing are you to correct those behaviors.
If you start working on eliminating beta behaviors, give yourself at least 6 months before you and others around you will notice a difference in you.
Work on correcting one behavior at a time. If you can’t say “no” to people, then work on it and get comfortable saying “no” to people. If you put women on a pedestal, then work on treating them just like any other human being. If you don’t have a goal in your life right now, then set a goal and work on it every single day.
If you start doing all the above-mentioned things, you’ll notice a huge difference in how you feel about yourself and how others treat you.
Working on yourself and improving yourself is a time-taking process and it takes time to correct a beta behavior. Give yourself 6 months to 1 year time to notice a difference in you.
Summary
A beta is a weak and submissive male. He doesn’t know what he wants out of life and just drifts along with life. He doesn’t have the courage to go after what he wants and accepts whatever life throws at him.
He often gets bullied and pushed around by people. He doesn’t have any self-esteem and is intimidated by others.
Here are the 8 things which you can do to stop being a beta male:-
- Learn to Say “No”
- Stop Putting Women on a Pedestal
- Develop a Fashion Sense
- Start Lifting/Exercising
- Work on Your Goals
- Stop Watching Porn and Jerking off
- Have The Courage to Do Something Different
- Stop Being Intimidated By Others
Working on yourself and correcting a beta behavior takes time. Give yourself at least 6 months of working on yourself to notice a difference in you.
